A cross-over from Fear to Love.
Hordes of people (mostly young) not feeling okay about just ‘hardening up’ or ‘toughening up’ as part of growing up/older.
This often ends up being in opposition to what their elders and the existing culture around advise them.
Maybe this has always been happening.
Maybe each generation tried to be a little more kinder than the previous.
Maybe there is no linear progressive threads like that.
Maybe it’s new, maybe it’s sporadic, maybe it’s occasional.
Whatever be the case, I feel that, in the world as a collective, there are so many people attempting to be kinder.
So many people trying to not pass on hurt.
People trying to process and resolve their pains, so that they don’t go on to spread hurt – which can happen while living with unresolved hurt.
This is sometimes categorized as selfish individualism.
As something that creates islands of disconnected individuals.
But in my experience, NOT processing and resolving ones feelings/experiences – joys and pains – is what creates isolation – creating the scenarios of ‘feeling lonely even in the company of people’.
All these young people trying to understand and practice ‘self love’, ‘compassion’, ‘kindness’ – they are not turning themselves into islands, they are not withdrawing from the world into their individualism-based cocoons.
They are just trying to make sure that they don’t perpetuate the cycle of hurt.
They are trying to not participate in the cycle of love-less-ness.
They are trying to form real connections, with vulnerability and all.
They are trying to not be in a closed-off-but-secrely-craving-connection mode for their entire life.
Trying to move from a fear-based, violent, aggressive, unkind dualistic system of judgement – of right and wrong.
Trying to move to a kinder, loving, peaceful way of living.
This often gets mistaken as an unprincipled, apathetic, agnostic stance – it’s not.
It’s just a bit different than the business-as-usual.
In quite a few settings, this attempt to not toughen up towards the world is seen as a blatant disregard to age-old wisdom.
As some sort of aberration, some sort of ‘collapse of morals’.
Collapse of morals – maybe.
But what are the ‘morals’ being disowned or collapsed.
Morals that are repressive, judgemental, punishing, unkind, abusive, unjust.
Morals that are traumatizing.
Morals that are so transparently hypocritic.
Morals that are commented as ‘too good to be true in the world’.
Morals based on fear.
Yes, those morals may be collapsing.
New morals of a gentler, respectful, loving, resilient nature may be evolving.
Why not give it a try.
It’s definitely not like some paradise will be lost, is it.
One may feel either way.
Or in different ways.
It’s all okay.
No one is judging.
We are all just living.
Thankful for this space and opportunity to share and feel connected across geo-political-cultural boundaries.
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A cross-over from Fear to Love.